Unconditional Love

Last night, I was getting my usual Glee fix on ETC. I wasn't really amazed with the latest episode. The Madonna episode was by far the best among the bunch. In the episode last night, the scene wherein Kurt's dad saw Kurt performing the auditorium was the one that stuck to my head.

"Your job is to be yourself, my job is to love you."

When Kurt's dad uttered those words, they immediately registered in my head. No matter how twisted a son or daughter could be, parents will always love them. That's the beauty of unconditional love. But this kind of love does not only apply to parent-child relationships. It also transcends different types of relationships.

When you love someone, you always give yourself reasons why you love that person. You love him/her because he/she is kind, funny, gorgeous, good in bed and etc. The long list goes on. Why do we always have to have reasons why we feel that way towards somebody? Isn't the feeling of love enough?

Then I realized one thing, sometimes we are so fixated to the reasons that we tend to forget the feeling itself. There are times wherein our love for one person is challenged by a lot of obstacles. These may be 3rd parties, irreconcilable differences, and others. If these obstacles continue to happen, we tend to succumb to them and lose.

Loving is accepting the entire package plus the excess baggage. We love a person for all the positive reasons but sometimes, the negative reasons get in the way. We tend to divert our attention to the negative side of things which then turns the relationship into a war zone. One bickering about this and the other retaliating in his/her defense. Fights happen, days of silence and a lot of hours spent alone. Of course, we then kiss and make up and then the mind-blowing make up sex happens. Well, that's a plus.

But do we always want things to be that way? We fight, we make up, we fight then we make up again. Seriously, don't we get sick of all the drama? It takes a lot of time and energy to build a relationship, but only a few minutes or even seconds to destroy it.

To those people who are in a relationship. Focus on the positive things and the way you feel for that person. Easier said than done, I know, I've been there. And honestly, I'm still learning, trying to be a better and understanding person.

You love the person because you love him/her. No other crap or bullshit. that's just how you feel. Focus on the positive and don't dwell on the negative. Its all about understanding and acceptance.

It takes a lot of patience and understanding to do it, but you won't lose anything by trying, right?